Love and Relationships: My experience Dating

Dating these days is honestly the worst! Especially when your in a wheelchair. Now im the type of girl who believes in love and soul mates and all that crap but this year Ive started to have a rethink. Of course I would love to have a boyfriend, I would love to get married and have kids but noadays the dating generation isnt like that at all. I mean to be honest with you Ive never been onlik a date before because when i do talk to guys it never leads to anything and that frustrates the hell out of me. All i want is a relationship someone to love me for me but you dont realise how hard it is. Especially when your in a wheelchair its literally impossible

Even before I start talking to them guys turn it sexual all thr bloody time and it does my heading. Ive been on dating apps like tinder and bumble for a good few years now and at the beginning I hid my wheelchair and my tracheostomy from my photos so that guys would like me for me and my personality but then when I turned 21 I relised whats the point in doing that. Its like catfishing. So that’s when I made the decision to show the real me and if they see past my wheelchair then that’s a bonus.

The types of men I have spoken to in the past?

Since showing my wheelchair, ive been getting the same question every single time. “Can you have Sex or “Can you feel anything down there” I mean I’m happy to ask intimate questions but not when they keep asking constantly and every single guy i talk to, this always happen. Its either that or theyre overly nice and talks to you all day and all night but then the next day you never here from them again. For example this week I spoke to one guy called Jake and he was super friendly he was from wales so he was willing to travel down to see me and stuff and it was going so well but did I ever here from him again? No

I dont know why they do this guys. Like I said its so frustrating and its so easy just to give up. My friend and I whos in a wheelchair to, we talk about relationships and dating all the time and she struggles as much as I do and sometimes its exhausting and it drains you out. We even have to question ourselves like why arnt we good enough? What are we doing wrpng that its all about sex to them?

This effects me all the times as I constantly over think things anyway and this just makes my brain think even more. Why is it so easy for abled people to get into relationships but for people who have a disability isnt? I ask my self the same question every single day.

Why I get so emotionally attached to guys I know?

Now this is something I have experienced a lot not just in the passed but recently to. Some of you may or may not know that when I fall for someone I fall really easily and when I do it takes a long time for me to emotionally attatch my self from them. Its not their fault but guys I dont know that I have real feelings and if they give me mixed signals, it messes with my head big time and i over analyse every detail andI write to chatgpt so it would analyse it for me. I know imm literally obsessed with that thing. I always use it for relationship or situationship advice and its amazing, Its like my relationship therapist. It answers everything, You should deffiently try it.

I know people who I know treat me differently from the rest of the group as Im the most vulnerable one and honestly I dont mind at all but please dont mess with my feelings like its normal to act like that it pisses me of. This has happened to me recently I mean maybe he does like me for me I just dont know. Its honestly one of the hardest things I have to deal with. Im trying to move on as I dont want anything to change with him. Im getting there its just taking time.

Being so emotionally attatched is the worst. It gives you so much anxiety and insomnia Its just awful. people try to get me to talk to him but I cant so im just trying to move on and keep myself busy. Its hard but it will get easier.

Dating with a disability?

Dating with a disability is hard, but you will know when…
someone truly sees you — not just your disability.

You’ll know when the person isn’t phased by your mobility aids, your limitations, or your bad days. They’ll show up with patience, kindness, and a willingness to understand — not pity.

They’ll ask questions, not make assumptions.
They’ll hold your hand and your heart — wheelchair and all.
They’ll treat your accessibility needs like a normal part of life, because to them, you are worth it.

It might take time, and that’s okay. You don’t have to settle for someone who just tolerates your disability — you deserve someone who embraces all of you, who sees your strength, your beauty, your humor, and your heart.

So if you’re dating with a disability and feeling discouraged, I get it. I’ve been there.
But trust me — love is absolutely still for you.
And the right person? They won’t see your disability as a burden.
They’ll see it as a part of your story… and they’ll be proud to be part of it too.

Have you had a similar experience? Let me know in the comments — I’d love to hear your story.